When I worked at TechTarget, often at Thanksgiving I would do a top 10 list of things my readers could be thankful for. The first was for the IBM AS/400-iSeries-System i crowd. Fiercely loyal people, iSeries users love their midrange server and hate anything that competes with it, including Microsoft. That first year, the number one thing they could be thankful for — there’s no Bill Gates.

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I thought I’d do my own top 10 list of things to be thankful for. What am I, a 42-year-old, recently re-employed woman with a pre-teen daughter and a failed marriage, thankful for? Let’s take a look:

10. That I look younger than my age — Thank you, Dad, for the fact that I have no gray hair and few wrinkles, save for those

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laugh lines that are starting to rear their ugly heads, and thank you, Mom, for my thinness. But as you can see from numbers 9 and 8, I believe my natural features need a little help.

9. My colorist & hair stylist — Thank you, Tawna, for the magical work you do coloring my hair, transforming my natural drab brown into golden blonde, and thank you, Harris, for knowing just how to cut my hair. Until I went away this past summer I had no idea how great you are. I went to two different colorists and stylists in Boston, and none did what you so ably do to make me look fabulous.

8. My trainer — I work out on my own, but without Josh to push me to the limit and figuratively kick my butt each week, I would not be in as good shape.

7. JetBlue — It might seem odd to have this company in my list, but with this airline I can easily and usually cheaply get back north to see my family, friends and co-workers. Plus, who wouldn’t love the free snacks, TV, roomy seats, crew, and customer service? And they fly direct from West Palm Beach, Fla., to Boston.

6. My health — I’ve had various health issues in the past, but today — save for my hypothyroidism — I’m pretty damn healthy (knock on wood!). Let’s hope I get through flu season without any problems.

5. My job — After being unemployed for five months, I’m very fortunate to have a job. However, when I took the position as editor of RainToday.com (Framingham, Mass.) I had no idea how great the company and my co-workers would be. On my first day, I sat at my desk and faced a stack of what I thought was mail. It was letters from each person who works there, welcoming me to the company. Three months later, when I had to return to Florida and was prepared to have them say “good-bye” to me, they told me I could work remotely — something they never allowed a staffer to do before. And when I made a visit to the office at the end of September, they surprised me with a little office party.

More than that, every week someone there tells me how much they like my work. It’s been quite a while since I’ve worked someplace where people like me and my work — and tell me so.

4. My Boo — Four years ago, when my marriage began its decay, I was fortunate to meet a man who has become one of the most important people in my life. What makes him so special is that he gets me — he understands me — and he lets me be me. He knows I have quirks (and God knows they can be challenging), but he doesn’t turn them into an issue. What he does do is get me to laugh about them, as well as many other things.

3. My friends and family — Family has always been important to me. They are my foundation and support me through everything. I have many friends who are also part of that foundation, but no one compares to my BFF Jill.

During the second week of our freshman year at Northeastern University, Jill literally took me by the hand to go off on an adventure. Nearly 25 years later, we’re still on an adventure. If my family is my foundation, Jill is the rock at the center that keeps it from crumbling. She has stuck by me through all of my ups and downs, and she is my voice of reason who helps me sort through whatever issue I’m dealing with. I can always count on her.

2. My daughter — Being the mother of a very-soon-to-be teenager, I now get the joke about understanding why some species eat their young. Yes, Paisley and I have our difficult times. We can both be moody, and we have our share of fights, but it is that girl who keeps me going. She is incredibly smart, loving, caring, and has more creative talent than I can ever hope to have. My life would be nothing if it didn’t include her.

And the number one thing is …

The desire to make my life better — I have days when it’s incredibly difficult to get out of bed. A large part of my life these days is a struggle — finalizing my divorce; being away from friends, family and my Boo; trying to figure out a plan to move back north; worrying about what’s best for my daughter; and more. What keeps me going is that I know my life can get better. But it will take work, and I’m the only one who can make it happen.

A few years ago I picked up The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho on a whim. An allegorical story about a young man learning to follow his heart and dreams, it is the most motivating and inspirational book I ever read. I’ve read it several times, usually during periods when I don’t think I have the strength to continue to “fight the good fight,” and after each read I feel stronger. I can make my life better.

So, what are you thankful for?

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